Shawn Kramer
- 5 days ago
- 2 min read

Moving Beyond Job Rejection

If you’re a working professional—if you’re a human—you’ve dealt with it. You poured hours into an application, tailored your resume and cover letter, and practiced what you’ll say in the car. Maybe you even bought a new outfit or pair of shoes to boost your confidence. You’ve moved seamlessly through each step of the interview process and developed a great rapport with the recruiter and hiring manager.

You’ve followed up with thank-you notes that include your excitement about the position, but it’s out of your control now. No amount of doomscrolling will ease your anxiety or calm the knot in your stomach. Will they just get this over with?

You’re hyper-focused on refreshing your inbox when suddenly the phone rings and you recognize the number. You curb your anxiety as you politely answer, knowing the person on the other end might share life-changing news. But their tone gives them away immediately and your stomach drops to your feet. You didn’t get the job.

The rest of the call was a blur. What happened? Didn’t they like you? Did you say or do something wrong? You were a perfect fit! Exhausted by the last eight weeks, you’re daunted by the task of starting over. What’s next?

Dos and Don’ts

Believe me, I can relate and have become an expert at managing job rejections. Being laid off twice in my 20s and playing “career catch-up” in my 30s taught me how to persevere and refocus on my goals.

DO take time to grieve. Rejection in any form is tough. Give yourself grace to feel your feelings and process the loss.
DO use the experience as a growth opportunity. Consider it practice that will set you up to land your dream job.
DO ask the recruiter or hiring manager for insight. Turn the situation into the chance to learn a new skill or get a certification.
DON’T beat yourself up. Again, do not beat yourself up. You were likely one of dozens (if not hundreds) of job applicants. An interview invitation is a success!
DON’T burn bridges with recruiters, hiring managers, or team members. They won’t reach out about future openings if you handle the rejection poorly. Many companies offer referral bonuses—give them a reason to keep you in mind.
DON’T lose your ambition. When you’re ready, pick up where you left off and apply for jobs with a refreshed perspective. The more applications you submit, the more likely you are to get an offer.